My first year in sales leadership, my phone never stopped ringing.
Every rep on my team had questions.
And I had answers.
What do I say when they want to think about it? Call Ben.
How do I handle this cancellation? Call Ben.
This customer wants a discount? Call Ben.
I answered every one.
Fast. Confident. Proud of it.
Being needed felt like leading.
But I couldn’t see what was actually happening.
My team wasn’t getting stronger.
I was just working harder.
I had turned myself into a vending machine.
Insert question. Receive answer.
And a vending machine doesn’t build leaders.
The Answer Trap
I call this The Answer Trap.
And it catches a lot of new sales leaders.
You get promoted because you’re good.
You know the product. You know the pitch. You’ve handled the objections. You’ve been in the situations your people are now facing.
So when someone brings you a problem, you can usually see the answer pretty quickly.
And you give it to them.
It feels efficient.
It feels helpful.
It feels like leadership.
But every time you answer a question someone could have answered themselves, you teach them something:
You own the thinking.
They bring the problem.
You do the thinking.
They execute your answer.
Do that enough times and pretty soon you don’t have a team of problem solvers.
You have a team waiting for instructions.
People tend to live up to the ownership you give them.
Give them ownership of execution, and they’ll execute.
Give them ownership of thinking, and they start becoming leaders.
What The Answer Trap Costs You
The cost doesn’t show up immediately.
It compounds.
Your team slows down when you’re not there
If every decision eventually makes its way to you, what happens when you’re unavailable?
Deals wait.
Decisions wait.
People wait.
You haven’t built capacity.
You’ve built a line.
You become the bottleneck
Your organization can only move as quickly as you can think, answer, approve, fix, and solve.
Add more people and the problem can actually get worse.
More reps.
More questions.
More decisions landing on your desk.
Eventually, your leadership becomes the ceiling on your team’s growth.
Your best people stop growing
Good people want responsibility.
They want to think.
They want to make decisions.
They want to know they’re becoming more capable because they work with you.
If you solve everything for them, you may make their job easier.
But you also make them smaller.
You exhaust yourself
This is the part I knew well.
You’re doing your job while carrying the thinking load for everyone else.
Then we wonder why leadership feels so heavy.
It isn’t always because we have too much responsibility.
Sometimes it’s because we’re carrying responsibility that belongs to someone else.
The Shift: Stop Building Followers. Start Building Thinkers.
New leaders believe their job is to have the answers.
Great leaders understand their job is to develop people who can find answers without them.
Completely different mission.
So the next time someone comes to you and asks:
“What should I do?”
Resist the urge to answer immediately.
Try one of these instead.
“What do you think?”
This is probably the question I use most.
It immediately puts the problem back where it belongs.
You’re also learning something important:
Have they actually thought about it?
Sometimes they already have a great answer. They just want your approval.
Sometimes they’ve thought through half of it.
Sometimes they haven’t thought about it at all.
Now you know where to coach.
“Walk me through how you’re thinking about it.”
This takes you one level deeper.
Don’t just listen for their answer.
Listen to how they got there.
What did they notice?
What did they miss?
What assumptions are they making?
What options did they consider?
Now you’re not solving one problem.
You’re developing judgment.
And judgment travels with them into the next problem.
“What would you do if I wasn’t here?”
I love this one when someone is capable but has gotten used to bringing decisions to the leader.
Take yourself out of the equation.
“What would you do if I wasn’t here?”
Most of the time, they know.
They just haven’t been required to own it.
Then comes the important part.
Wait.
Don’t rescue them from the silence.
Give them a few seconds.
That little bit of discomfort is often where the thinking starts.
What Happens After They Answer?
This is where leadership gets interesting.
Asking the question isn’t enough.
You have to know what to do with their answer.
Here’s a simple way to think about it.
If they’re 80% right, let them run
This can be hard for strong salespeople who become leaders.
You know how you would do it.
You know what you would say.
And you can probably improve their idea.
Don’t.
If their approach is solid, let them own it.
Your 100% solution executed by them is often less valuable than their 80% solution that they truly own.
Because they’re not just solving this problem.
They’re building the muscle to solve the next one.
If their thinking has a gap, keep coaching
Don’t immediately correct them.
Ask another question.
“What could happen if the customer says no?”
“What are you assuming there?”
“What other options do you have?”
“What’s the downside of that approach?”
Help them see what they haven’t seen yet.
A conclusion you give them may solve one situation.
A thinking process you help them build can solve hundreds.
If they genuinely don’t know, teach them
This matters.
Leadership is not turning every conversation into a guessing game.
Sometimes your people don’t have the information.
Sometimes they don’t have the experience.
Sometimes they need the answer.
Give it to them.
Teach.
Coach.
Share context.
Step in when it matters.
The goal isn’t to stop answering questions.
The goal is to stop answering questions your people are capable of answering themselves.
That’s the difference.
“But It’s Faster If I Just Tell Them”
Yes.
It is.
Today.
It might take you 30 seconds to give someone an answer and three minutes to coach them through the thinking.
So answering feels faster.
But only if you measure one conversation.
Answer the question today and they may bring you the same kind of question tomorrow.
And next week.
And next month.
Coach the thinking and you invest three minutes now to develop someone who can handle the next ten situations without you.
Answering is faster today. Coaching is faster forever.
That is one of the hardest transitions from selling to leading.
As a salesperson, your ability to solve problems made you valuable.
As a leader, constantly solving everyone else’s problems can make your team dependent on you.
Sellers solve problems.
Leaders build problem solvers.
That’s the shift.
The Person Who Owns the Thinking Owns the Growth
The goal of leadership isn’t to be the smartest person in the room.
It’s to build a room full of people who don’t need you to think for them.
People who can assess a situation.
Make a decision.
Own the result.
Learn.
Adjust.
And do it again without waiting for you.
That is how leaders multiply themselves.
So try something this week.
Pick one person on your team who brings you a lot of questions.
The next time they ask:
“What should I do?”
Count to three.
Then ask:
“What do you think?”
And wait.
The silence may feel uncomfortable.
Let it.
That’s where the thinking transfers.
Make it a great day 👊🏼
Ben Ward
Creator of The Sellership System®
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